Do what makes you worth it

Praise, anyone pissing you off?

Yesterday was fifty shades of annoying for me. Half of it was spent assuming responsibility for what really isn't my fault, but diplomacy.

Here we are, trying to fix it—half hoping it doesn't all go to naught.

Getting angry at my day has become somewhat a regular. I should get that checked, but something else has also come to my attention. I get calm shortly after.

"Shortly" ranges from 20 minutes to 3 hours to the entire night.

The first time, I found myself repeating in my head, "act, don't react". I first learned this in the book "How to Make Friends and Influence People".

From action, there's an equal and opposite reaction. Whatever goes up, comes down. Yada yada yada.

When you react, whatever you do is dependent on the initial act. You're not in control of your actions. I guess that's why I find myself mostly apologising in cases where it wasn't really my fault.

So, act.

What I do is that I let the other act sink in. Are you scolding me? I let you finish. Are you lashing out wrongly? Finish. Are you doing something wrong? I try to see all angles first.

Then, I ask myself what I think about what they've said? Half the time I have reacted, it has been about how they said it, and not what they said.

"What did he say?" "What did she do?" "Why?" "Is it right?"

The message is what matters. When you address it, progress is made.

What about how they said it? Nothing about it, it says more about them than you. I have found out half the time that respect is slowly built when their attitude do not get to you.

"But I'm human", I told myself. I know I've got feelings and they bleed. I can overthink. I don't forget. I judge people based on their actions. If you are not courteous, I'll react to that.

What happens then?

Nothing. Usually, I'd build my reaction based off how it helps me rise back to my optimal state.

Would hating you do that? Would not talking to you help me? Would leaving help me? Would firing you save me?

I'll do it without remorse.

I believe with all my heart that "whatever threatens my self confidence and worth is not worth the trouble of diplomacy".

How do I try to stay calm?

I don't.

My mind races through the roof at the moment. I could usually request for a reschedule or cede to your request.

Then I spend time on Netflix or writing a Newsletter or Twitter or talking with her or sleeping or TikTok or my personal brand.

Recently, I have added The X to my list of activities.

Today, I woke up to the Payoneer rebrand news. I guess we launch our Building Culture with a letter on what I think about it.

I'd also write the brief for my documentary today.

Have any ideas or references, share please. I'd give you credits as appropriate.

Love ya. Ciao.

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