Right or kind?

Being a lead shed a new light on the concept of human relationships and communication. Being an introvert who did things himself, I now had to learn to do things with others.

This came with the expectation that it may not be done right, or at all. It meant that somehow, every time, I am always going to take responsibility for situations that weren't directly my fault; that somehow, I am expected to have a level of foresight over things I honestly cannot control.

And these do not depreciate the fact that I get to work with really brilliant minds and potential. It only amplifies the risk I have to mitigate every waking day.

But whenever I choose to share feedback—which is, like, every day—my go to formula is talking as I would like to be talked to. It's probably not the best form of leadership out there. I've heard, read and seen being firm, direct and decisive; judge on metrics and don't let it linger long before you take necessary steps; dole some form of punishment when people don't meet up to expectations and so on.

They're right, but that's not me. Because when I am faced with the choice of being right or kind, I choose kind.

I cannot defend the ROI on my choice yet, but it is safer [and peaceful] knowing I can trust my team—and it is fulfilling knowing my team trusts me too.

I hope you choose kind too, this Tuesday.

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