Making your choices

Last night, I saw a tweet about staying away and not taking advice from people who give it from a position of fear, doubt and pessimism.

Right.

They mean well but when you look at it—objectively—fear, doubt and pessimism could be false synonyms for caution, foresight and experience. It's a thin line to toe but it does exist.

How do you know if you should take someone's thoughts as cautious or afraid? Are they flat out pessimistic or just experienced? Do they distrust you or just see the situation clearer than you?

I don't know. There are no markers for them.

However, I do believe that the coach sees the field better than the captain on the field and the captain feels the field better than the coach. And every match is won based on how well in sync—or not—the coach and captain are.

To our chat today, Praise, if we tried to see it from the lenses of both the coach and the captain—as pessimistic and experienced, as distrust and foresight, as cautious and afraid—maybe we can make better choices, or rather, informed choices.

Cos it is life, not logic. Everything isn't boolean. There are grey areas and you, my friend, are tailor-made for those parts. Two things can be true. Two things can be false.

So when you tell someone your idea and they, sincerely, don't get so excited about it, it might be an opportunity to test your thoughts further.

Nothing builds conviction more than an idea standing tall and strong against valid objections.

And the best ideas—the ones that win—are ideas with these convictions.

Good morning.

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